An ongoing debate exists over whether loaning money to friends can damage the friendships or not.Regarding this controversial issue, I strongly support the saying "lend your money and lose your friends."The reasoning behing my thinking is that the pursuit of money can make people disregard friendships.What's more, loans from friends are not seriously considered.
To start with, money can make people so selfish and greedy that even friendships seem meaningless to them.This largely results from the fact that people believe that "money talks." A main reason friends should not borrow money from each other is that when hard-earned money is not paid back on time, lenders become furious and hold grudges against borrowers, regardless of their friendships.To show this point, a countless number of court cases deal with hostile friends fighting over unpaid money.Lenders often file lawsuits against their friends who borrowed from them.In return, borrowers feel extremely betrated and hurt by their cold-hearted friends who seem to value money more than their friendships.In this respect, money transactions among friends can unquestionably damage friendships
Another reason is that loans from friends are not taken seriously.This is because relationships based on familiarity and fondness often cause borrowers to take the loans for granted and to care little about punctuality in repayment.At the same time, friendships make it difficult for lenders to become formal and businesslike when asking for repayment.In my own experience, when I was a freshman in college,my friend asked me to lend hime two hundred dollars.Without any hesitation, I lent him the cash without any written agreement or payment plan because I did not want to cloud the friendly relationship.Unfortunately, my friend neglected to repay my loan for almost a year.Therefore, whenever I saw my friend, I started to feel bitter and doubted his trustworthiness.
To conclude, I strongly believe that financial transactions between friends can damage relationships.The reason is that money can make people become blind with greed.Moreover, friends often delay in paying back the money.Consequently, I believe that the best way to solve this problem is by following the saying,"he that lends,gives." |