Undoubtedly, friends play a significant
role in people’s daily lives in many of the places where they work or play.
Some people think that people can learn a lot about a person from the type of
the friend the person has, while others do not. Both sides may have their own
reasons to support their views. If I had to choose one, I would say that friends
the person has cannot be the criterion to determine the person. There are
several reasons as follows.
To
begin with, we are usually not intimate with people who are similar to us. In
other words, we may feel the sense of crisis if we meet a person who is similar
to us because the similar person may displace us. Therefore, we prefer people
who are different from us over people who are similar to us. For example, when I
was in high school, I usually made new friends having different characteristics
from me. If there was a person who had equal thought with me, then I was
reluctant to intimate with the person since I did not want to be replaced my
position. Thus, a lot of friends having different values and thought were full
around me. As we can see from this compelling example, we cannot judge the
person by their friends since people usually have good relationships with people
who are not similar to them.
On
top of that, we prefer to make friends with people who we can learn something
from them. However, we cannot learn anything from people who are similar to me
since similar people have similar thought and behaviors with me. Therefore,
people want to make friends having different thoughts and acting dissimilar
behaviors with me. For instance, when my sister was in college, my sister
wanted to learn cultures of other countries. Therefore, she began to make foreign
friends rather than intimate with countrymen, and after all, she was able to
make a lot of foreign friends and learn about foreign countries. In the light
of the archetype, we are likely to become familiar with people who can be
revered.
All
things considered, I strongly believe that friends cannot show their friends’
characteristics. All in all, the importance of distinctive characteristics
cannot be overestimated in life.