▶ Your Answer : It has been widely debated whether two people whose interests and personalities are different cannot friends. I personally believe that the relationship between two people with different interests and personalities can cannot be built because of the difference. The first reason is that their different tendency to spend time make them to enjoy their leisure separately. The second reason is that there are many controversies because of different characteristic.
To begin with, different inclination of two people gives rise to spending time individually. Usually, to become close friend two people who want to be a friend of each other need to spend lots of time together, knowing about each other and sharing same experiencing various events which further strengthen the bond between two people. But, the gap of interests and personalities between them usually prevent them from investing a lot of time in same activities. For example, there was a roommate in my college when i was a freshman. Since we lived in same room, the circumstance for being close friend is appropriate. However, we had different interests and characteristics which are opposite to those of each other. I was deeply interested in history and an introverted person whereas he was a kind of engineering buff and an outgoing person, me spending the most of my free time reading some historical books and movies and going to some places with historical or cultural values such as palaces and walls with preference for static activities, he reading science books which were totally out of my interest and knowledge I could understand and spending lots of time experimenting or getting involved in some complicated mathematics questions outside. So, we could not share same experience which could make our bond stronger and after I moved out from the dormitory we barely kept in touch with each other. In retrospect, the physical distance between us was short, about one meter, in our dorm room, but, the mental distance was so far away from each other due to different interests and personalities.
Furthermore, owing to difference there are many conflicts between two people. When two people do something cooperative, the consensus between two people is very crucial since without the consensus, they cannot do anything. But, often two people with different inclination get involved in conflicts with regard to decisions, making it hard for them to build trust to each other. For instance, when I was a college student I planned for traveling to Japan between semesters with a student with same major with me. But, due to different perspectives on the purpose of the travel we could not lead to the consensus about how to spend our money and time in Japan, me considering visiting cultural and historical values to be vital to travel and he regarding eating and entertaining events to be important for the trip. So, even we fought because of this planning process and eventually the plan for travel was canceled since we could not arrive at the conclusion and our relationship was broken.
To sum up, two people with different characteristics and interests are not able to become friends. First, their different inclination to spend time make them to enjoy their free time separately. Second, there are many conflicts because of different characteristic and interest.
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