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Some people think that parents should set strict rules for children, if they hope to see their children succeed in life. However, I believe that they should not set strict rules, if they want their children to succeed in life. This is because setting strict rules for children prevent children from becoming well grown people by hurting their feelings, and taking out opportunities to learn decision making skills.
To begin with, strict rules get children hurt a lot times, leading many drawbacks, instead of helping children to succeed in their life. Human beings are emotional. When people get hurt emotionally, those feelings will lasts for a longer time than we have usually expected. For many times, children who got hurt by their parents want to express their feelings to their parents by doing unusual behaviors which they don’t originally do. These unusual behaviour varies, but most of those are things that they are not supposed to do such as drinking alcohol, harassment, or not going to school. As a result, strict rules will not help children to succeed in their life, but drag children’ life into worse situations which would not happen if they didn’t get hurt by strict rules. According to the study held by Harvard University, 82 percent of respondent out of 200 children who took rehabilitation course for mental problems said they did get hurt by rigorous rules set by their parents, and those made them decide to do something bad to express their feeling to their parents. For instance, a parent set a rule saying that you should not hang out with children who don’t study hard. They scold him/her that he should not hang out with his friend whose grades are not good. The parent’ kid got hurt, and it results he even spend more time with that friend and do something bad things together to show his/her parent that he does not like what he was said. If this situation lasts for a longtime, the kid’s life will not be as good as that would originally if there was no strict rules. In this regard, I believe that strict rules rather have children hurt, and it will make a lot of drawbacks which worsen their life.
Furthermore, it is very important for children to have decision making abilities. After being grown people, they need to make decisions by themselves when they deal with many problems rather than following strict rules made by someone else. If they get used to follow rules restricting their behaviors, they will not have enough skills to make decisions while facing hard situations. Rather, they will try to find out if there is any rules they can apply for. Lacking of theses skills result serious problems for children’ life, since neither parents nor strict rules made by parents will be permanent. Consequently, they will not know what they can do to live their life well. For instance, I have a friend whose parents are super strict. They had a lot of rules for their kid. For example, the kid needed to go back to home right after a school work had finished to study hard. He seemed like he studied well and got good grades. However, he did not know what we had to do when his parents were not by him, or there were no rules for some circumstances. Consequently, he called me up every time when he had a problem to seek out solutions. He thinks this behaviour still lasts and it really blocks him to succeed in his life. In this regard, I believe that setting strict rules will prevent children to succeed in their life by taking out chances to learn decision making skills.
To sum up, I believe that setting strict rules by parents does not help children succeed in their life for the following reasons; Strict rules make children hurt, resulting children to do many bad things that they didn’t do originally, and the rules set by parents will take out chances for children to learn how to make decisions by themselves, which is very important to succeed in their life. Consequently, the importance of my opinion cannot be underestimated for the reasons I mentioned above.
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