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As there is a famous saying that when you have three real friends, you have succeed in your life, friends are one of the most important factors in one's life. Some people think that if you are a true friend, it is right to prevent your friend from making mistakes although it might destroy the friendship. However, it is better to let a friend make a mistake rather than to take action to prevent it.
To begin with, your friend can learn from that mistake. If a person makes a mistake and realizes that they should not repeat the mistake again, it is worth making it. There are much more possibility that one will never make the same mistake when they have done, than just hearing advice from others. For instance, my friend Bob went on a job interview last month. Since he was very proud of himself, he thought he would pass the interview with no difficulty. However, in my point of view, he had to work very hard in order for him to pass since there were other competitive applicants applied for that interview. As I thought, Bob failed on that interview since he did not prepare anything for the interview. The important thing is that because of this mistake, Bob never go to interviews without preparing. From his mistake he learned that even though he is very competent for the job, he has to prepare for it.
Moreover, there is no guarantee that your friend will listen to you but ruin the friendship. According to one article about psychology experiment, people tend to get more heart-broken when he receives harsh advice from close people. This is because he has a strong belief in his heart that his friend is always on his side. However, since this faith has broken, he feels more pain. With this pain, the relationship can broke into irrevocable way. In addition to this, the friend might not listen to the advice since he would not want to believe that he is wrong. To be specific, my brother Mark has a friend named Max. They two were best friends since elementary school. One day when those two were taking about what they are going to major in in the future, Mark said to Max that Max should never major in Mathematics since he is not very good at thinking in mathematical ways. Well this was true that Max was terrible in Math. But, Max did not accept this. Since he loved math, he decided to major in Math which was the biggest mistake in his life. Even though Mark gave that advice for good aim, Max did not listened to Mark and to make things worse, their relationship got broken and they never contact each other since then.
Since there is a possibility that the friend might not accept the advice and the tendency to learn more from the mistakes, it is better to let the friend to make a mistake rather than taking actions which are risky.
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