In a relationship between friends, which an important part of people's daily lives, diverse conflicts and quarrels occur. Often, these fights start from originally good intentions, when a friend tries to correct another's mistakes or errors. Although the intention might have been a good purpose, corrections between friends can have negative outcomes. Not only will it hurt the feeling of the other friend, but can also hinder the friend from recognizing his wrong actions.
To begin with, correcting a friend's mistake is likely to hurt the feeling of the friend. Unlike the criticism from teachers or parents who's role is to guide us, when friends give such advices, people often feel humiliated and hurt. This can even have a negative influence in the friendship. A good example would be my personal relationship with a friend named Jade. When I was in the middle school, Jade was my best friend who spent a considerable amount of time with me. While I had a very outgoing personality, Jade was more introvert and shy. Since I firmly believed that communicating with diverse people was a necessary part of the social life, I constantly urged Jade to be more sociable. Whenever Jade seemed to be embarassed to talk to new people, I tried to correct such behaviors and continuously told Jade that she should discard her shy personality. It was not soon after that I found out that Jade did not want to spend her time with me. She neither appreciated my concern towards her, nor regarded me as a good friend. It was because I have hurt her ego and self-respect. Likewise, a friend's harsh advice is prone to hurt the other friends feelings.
Furthermore, letting a friend make a mistake would help the friend to realize his errors, and correct them independently. Pointing out the bad behaviors of a friend and guiding them beforehand can prevent the friend from learning his mistakes. This would only make the friend perform the same bad behavior over and over in the near future. According to a research conducted by a prominent university in Korea, people are more prone to fix their wrong behaviors when they realize it with by themselves. This is because they feel the necessity of changing the error, while corrections from other people can just frustrate them. From this fact, it can be concluded that self-learning and acknowleding is much more effective than critical advices from family memebers or friends. This makes it clear that letting a friend make a mistake is much better than continuously correcting his or her behaviors.
In conclusion, it is more desirable to let a friend make a mistake rather than correcting it. By doing so, not only will the friend have the opportunity to actually change his mistake, but also feel less humiliated and hurt than when another friend correct his bad behaviors. Thus, I believe that allowing a friend to correct his mistakes independently is much better than trying to correct the wrong-doings.