Since I was born,I have made many friends and spent time with them a lot. Although all of them are the most precious part of my life and they mean a lot to me, after some reflection, I realize that I prefered to hang out with one or two close friends than a large number of freind. I suppose it was because I was able to be closer to them and there was less argument between us when I spent time with one or two friends.
First, Hanging out with a small number of friends enables us to be more friendly to them. People can share their thoughts and feelings easily when they are in a small group. In a word, spending with a few close friends is a good way to get to know each other more. From my personal experience, when I was sophmore in my university, most of my friends left the university because they had to do militery service. Only two friends left and I spent a year with them. Prior to that time, we had been just good friends, but we became very close since we started to know what we had not known about each other and thus could understand each other more deeply.
Secondly, with a few friends, we can reduce argument. The more people there are, the more argument. No matter how close I am to my friends, it is no doubt that there must be differences of thoughts. As a result of hanging out with many friends , people might fight with their friends and have a bad time. To illustrate this, when I was a high school student, I was always with many friends who had totally different traits. We used to wander around a downtown, everytime we had to make a decision such as where we should go and what restaurant we should go, there was a problem. Of course each person had different opinions, so we often wasted time on arguing and some times even serious fights occured.
In conclusion, in order to avoid conflicts between peers and become a closer friend I strongly believe that people should hang out with fewer number of friends. Having many friends does not gurantee establishing a excellent relationship with friends. Why do not we concentrate on a few friends? |