Those who think that the more, the better, might like to meet with a lot of friends at once. However,
I think that having time with a small number of friends is better than with many friends. there are two main reason: it allows us to have emotional band during conversations, and a few close friend can be truely helpful in our life.
First, when it comes to emotional bond, it is better to be with a few of friends.
In a large group, it is certain that we are distracted by many talking topics to read own's emotional feeling. In order to make a meaningful conversation deeply sharing our daily life as well as having a discussion about social issues, we often use a various kinds of conversation methods such as facial expressions, voice tone, eye contacts, etc. Once we lose track of conversaton for a moment, it is sometime hard to truely understand others' feeling.
For exmaple, when I had a serious trouble with my boss, I brought up the subject during my bithday party. To my dissapointment, I felt that they made light of my problem since there were too many topics everybody had to talk about only my problem for a long time. However, when I visited one of my best friends, I was being comforted while he was lisntening carefully about my trouble. it is a small group that help us not distracted by many talking topics. Conseqently we can feel emotional feeling each other.
Additionally, a few close friend is the one who be able to help us in a society.
In such a human oriented society, it seems crucial that we should have a broad human network to survive. However, it is not the nubmer of people around you, but the numbers of the one who truely help you when you are in difficulties that matters. From helping you finding a job where you have a talent to borrowing money in your urgency, only your close friends can properly give a hand to you.
Suppose that you are trouble with your boss in work. who can give a advice for you. it is your co-worker who know your boss's characteristics and know what kind of mistakes you made in a job. Not only that, but you can also feel free to call to your close friends when you suddenly need money.
it is hard to show our problems and weakness to people who are in superfical relationship with us.
In summary, I agree with the statement that having more time with close friends is helpul in that we can have emotional bond and they are the one who help us in difficultis.
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