▶ Your Answer : Some people think that parents should set the rules for their child because they think children needs to grow under strict discipine. However, in my opinion, Strict rules set by parents make a negative effect on their child for two reasons as below. one thing is ineffectiveness of parent's opinion and the other is strict not moderate discipline has side effect on relationship with their child.
First of all, the rule set by parents ,not by children themselves, is not effective against child life. As children grows up untill they are matured, they would face challenging moment even though they could succeed in their life by following the guideline their parents set. But, if faced by harder problem than parents could help them solve with, children could be easily under hardship. That's because by experience hardships by themselves, they can learn the process how to push the problem and make it done eventhough it takes more time. When I was young, myparents always said I should be able to solve the problem on my own. From that moment, I can learn the importance of dealing with stressful environment very well. Like this, I consider direct experience as an asset for child over thier entire life.
On top of that, Pushing strict rules on child has a negative effective on relationship with child. Especially, when they are adolescence, they tend to be biased-judgemental against all the decision they are making as well as be emotional. So, when their parents set the strict rules and scold children not by they following the strct rules, a relationship with their children is to be easily broken so it cannot sometimes get back. According to research conducted by Harvard Education Research team, they shows the more strcter the rule is against their child, the less the effect is. If relationship between them get wrong, it is no way for children to succeed in their life even they become rich or intelligent. Like this, Strict rule not moderate can bar children to grow to a successful adult.
To sum up, If children is to be succesful in their life, they need to set their principles at their will not by following the rules of parents. Furthermore, strict rules not moderate has side effect on their childhood as well as their relationship with their parents. For these reasons, I assure that parents need not set the strict rules for children to follow their rules.
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