Some people says that when you make an important decision, you would better listen to advice of family and friends. I think, however, that listen to advice of family and friends have shortcomings. First, information are limited. Second, they can not have subjective attitude for their family and friends. So, I think listen to expert's advice related your decision.
First, informations from family are limited. Of course, your father, mother and sister can be your best advisor. However, when you make an important choice about your job they can not be a good advisor. Because of they don't know what will you do in job world. Let me take an example my friend. I had a friend who want to be a movie star 4 years ago. He had a very good appearance and already famous in play team in the university. He really wanted to be an actor, he tried to contact management company of acting. Fortunately, management company accepted him and he proved his talent through a independent movie. But, his parents strongly against for his dream. Because his father and mother were doctor, they wanted their son to be a doctor as well. Even though he proved his talent several time, they always gave him opposite opinion. Finally, he surrendered his dream, he decided to be a doctor. I think that if his parent knew that ability of their son, at least if they were people who interested in acting, they did not against for his dream. Due to lack of informations his couldn't achieve his goal. So, I think that advice from family can not to be a best way to attain your success.
Second, family and friends can not be a subjective advisor because of their love. For examples, "Shine", one of my favorite movie well showed an unfortunate pianist because of his father. His father did not allow him to study abroad, because he has excessive love his son. If he send his son to the state, he got a fame. He was a one of genious pianist. His father didn't want to seperate with his son, the pianist could not have any chances to release his record.
In conclusion, I don't think that following family and friend's advice when you make an important decision. First, their informations are not various because of family is the smallest group in society. Second, due to their excessive love, sometimes they can not decide having subjective attitude. For these reasons I think getting information from other who related is better than family and friend.
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