Most people might think that having many friends is much more beneficial than having just a few friends. I think they might have confused between amusement from making new friends and true relationships among sincere friends. Also, Meeting honest and true friends is not easy because it is impossible without staying long time together or sharing one's profound internal thought. Nevertheless, having many friends has significant harmful factors.
First, I think friends should be always listen to one's troubles or enjoyment carefully and should give an advice in proper time. There is an old saying, ' Make your friends do good. ' However, to do so, one should fully understand his or her friend and it takes much time and effort. If it is not possible to do so, one could not remain friendship in a long time. So, it is difficult to have many friends and to have a deep relationship at the same time. For example, a friend of mine has many friends but she knows little about them. Because she has so many people to care, she couldn't get a deep relationship, so it was superficial. Later, she had troubles in getting advices when she had to make an important decision.
Second, people who have many friends have difficulty in arranging thier own schdule. I believe that people who have many friends also have to meet them and keep in touch with them regularly. Then, their time to think about themselves and to work will be severely affected. Time arrangement is important matter to success in the fast-chainging modern society. So if they have to meet many people, they will lose their time to develop themselves and to success in their career.
To summarize, having a few friend is more beneficial because having many friends makes people have superficial relationships and it is hard to get private time.
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