It is sometimes said that borrowing money from a friend can harm or damage the friendship.Do you agree or disagree? |
It is controversial whether money transaction between friends is harmful to keep friendship. Some people say that someone who helps a friend when he or she need is a true friend. However, I strongly believe the idea that it makes to be fragile a friendship to lend and borrow money between friends because it creates inequality and destroys trust between friends. First of all, borrowing money from a friend is noxious to keep equality between friends. It means that friends should have the same power in their relationship but once one friend borrows money from another, lender has to be more powerful. In other words, money transaction makes friendship to be a business relationship. They become not friends but lender and borrower. For example, I borrowed 300 dollar from my best friend Dae-young when I underwent financial difficulty. After borrowing money, I felt uncomfortable whenever met him. In addition, he expected certain favor from me because of borrowed money. As a result, although I returned money, we could not keep close relationship. In addition, having loan from a friend can destroy trust between friends. It is one of the most important virtues between friends to believe each other. However, if someone lent money to his or her friend, the money might be not able to return in a reasonable time frame because the friend’s problems may be not going to resolve. Even the lender is a patient and kind person, he or she can not believe the friend anymore. To be specific, one of the my father’s best friends borrowed 30,000 dollar from my father about 5years ago. He promised my father to return the money in 3 months but he did not keep the promise. Although my father tried to believe him, he avoided my father’s contact and ran away. In sum up, I agree the idea that monetary transaction between friends can damage the friendship because it break equal relationship and ruin trust between friends. I would suggest to remember the old saying that “Lend your money, loose your friend.”
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