Whether or not letting a friend know mistakes is quite contravercy. Some people argue that people should let their friends know their mistakes because they are friends who can share all experiences and emotion. However, I strongly disagree with their opinion. People should not tell their mistakes to their friends and keep them secret. There are two reasons supporting my idea; competitive society and confucianism.
To begin with, it is a bad idea to tell your mistakes to your friends because the society is too competitive now. To be particular, Korea where I live in and observe is such a small country and the population rate is very high. In other words, korean society is way much competitive because of too many people to survive in a small area. Morover, Koreans are mostly too highly-educated(90 percentage of high school students go to universities) and the competition is getting severe due to high unemployment rate which is getting higher in a small job market. In this situation, telling your mistake to your friends is giving a chance to your friends to say bad things about you. People will use your mistake as a means to draw your reputation down to survive.
On top of that, people should not tell their mistakes to their friends as they will lose their faces. Especially, Korea is a strict society when it comes to old Confucianism even though it has highly deveoped cutting-edge cities. Confucianism controls Koreans to behave in a specific way; you must not lose your face. "Face" has significant meaning to Koreans. Losing faces makes koreans feel very embarrased and sometimes causes a mental problem such as a depression. In addition, losing one's face is not only important to the one, but also friends of him or her. Having a friend who made a mistake, or who lost his face, is something that Koreans want to avoid because they don't want to be involved in a troublsome happening which possibly would make them lose thier faces, too. If you tell your mistakes to your friends, your friends will leave you.
In brief, confessing your mistakes to your friends is worse than doing nothing because it will make you a loser because of your competitive friends. And you will lose your face and eventually you will be alone.
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