저도 요거 한번.... 잘 쓴 글에 자극 받아.. ^^;
Generally, people say that don’t evaluate anybody before you know him well. Probably, it is because people would make wrongs when they judge some one without a considerable period to know. Taking a long time to know him will be a great way to get a hardened relationship. I believe that there are two types of serious drawbacks when people attach the importance of people’s initial impression: easy to make misjudgments and hard to get along with.
Estimating people quickly brings about many misjudgments. This is not easy to meet with intimate friends or to avoid people who are harmful. I have seen many people who show a lot of different characteristics later on than I previously evaluated. Some people show much better personalities than their first impressions I got; meantime, some expose their impatient or fiery individualities later on. In my case, I had worked for a Chinese cuisine restaurant for about three years as a part time job. We were hiring for a chief in the kitchen. Some body came in, but he was denied because of his shabby appearance even though he explained his long career of cooking. Finally, he got a job for our competing restaurant, and then he became well-known in the area as a great cooker. It was seriously regretful, but the regret was too late.
It is hard to get reliance among around people by considering much of people’s first impression. There must be countless characteristics people have. They act on their personalities such traits as polite, impolite, supportive, support less, familiar, unfamiliar and so on. If I evaluate people by their initial impressions without monitoring their characteristics, people estimate me as a hasty person. Probably, it makes me hard to get along with others. For example, in night, I often stay to study in a food market corner that has free seats and a fire place. There are many people who are familiar with me. However, the relationships were not like now. I used to alert when I got there because frankly, some were look like the homeless, and some were seemed wild. After I got many times of conversation with them, I was aware I had misconceptions by their first looking. If I thought much of their first impression, certainly, I couldn’t be a friend with each other.
In conclusion, many people including me often make a mistake of attaching a great importance of first impression. Sometimes, it provokes wrong decisions on the relation with around people. I believe that estimating people by their initial impressions without considerable time to observe them should be handled carefully because of misjudgments and reliance among people.