It is inevitable to face any kinds of problems in our lives. There are different approaches of solving these small of big problems and they vary from person to person. In my case, I get advices from people around me, and after considereing the thoughts of others, make my own decision. This approach ahs always worked best for me. By talking to others, I can think about perhaps all the possibilities that could be a way to solve a problem. Furthermore, talking to close people about the problems I have could help me solve additional and related problems or those that are not yet solved completely. At the end I make the decision by my own thoughts and logic, so there is no worry that the solution may not suit to my situation. To start, discussing about a problem with other people allows us to think about various possibilites that we may not have been able to come up with ourselves. There is an old Korean saying, "two brains are better than one", and this is the reason why we have debates and discussions in the government or the United Nations. Personal problems may seem less important that the huge policies, but the in way of solving a problem, talking with people adjusts to this kind too for we all have different experiences, backgrounds, and ways of thinking. For instance, when I had a problem wich I had to choose whether to apply to a high school specialized in international studies and literature art, my own thought was merely that it would be difficult for me to get good grades being between the smart, gifted kids. However, I talked about this problem with my parents, friends, teachers, and even a friend that was attending the school, my decision changed to aply. What these people told me was about further possibilities. How I could get excellent classes from teachers that are special to teach the gifted, how I would be more free to attend in doing extra curricular activities, and the advantages I would get when I aply an university just by getting special education. I am fully satisfies with the decision, which I would not have made if I was alone to make the decision. Secondly, by informing close people about our problems, we open the possibilities of solving the follow up problems of unsolved problems more easily. In many cases, problems are not solved that easily and a single problem does not end as being the only one, but has additional problems. Having disagreements with your mother about her comments on your clothes links to being uncomfortable with your father for mosly parents are closer to eachother than with us. For people already know about our problems is we try to gain advices from them, it would be easy for us to get additional advices. Although your conflict with your mother ends, your father may still be mad at you for complaining to your mother about her words. If a friend already knows the situations of you and your mother fighting previously, there is no need for you to explain why your father is angry, and your friend will be able to give a solution. Lastly, for the decision is made by myself, I feel no regret of listening to others or not being careful or thoughtful enough. I choose the final decision to be mine, rather than my best friends. This is because no matter how much someone knows about me or the situation, it is myself that knows the conditions best and it is my problem. However, I have listened to other's opinions, so I have lots of ideas on what the solutions could be. Thus, so far, I have never ended up regretting about a decision I have carefully made after discussing with others. The selected one may not be so great, but going through this process helps me believe that it was the best coice I could have made. To sum up, discussing with others around me about the problem and making the decision myself is the way I prefer to solve problems, and I believe there are many benefits by doing so. Thinking about a huge amount of possibilities is impossible for me to do alone, but talking with others help me go through it. Moreover, it is much convinient and economic to solve other additional problems and to have more help by it, and I have the least regrets on the decisions made like this.
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