Letting a friend make a mistake is better than saying or doing something that might destroy the friendship. |
"It is impossible to buy valuable friends with money". This is a famous maxim representing the value of friends. When it comes to the matter to pointing out friends' mistakes, I largely think that letting a friend make a mistatke is better than doing or saying something that might destroy the friendship. This is because explicit advise could hurt their heart and my thought is not absolutely right.
To begin with, I don't want my friends to get stress dut to my stragitward comments. As far as I know, most people are reluctant to listen their own faults explicitly. For example, when I was a student in middle and high school. my personality is so straightward and explicit that I used to say my friends' fault without heisitation. Owing to this attitude, most friends used to complain and feel unpleasant even though I had good intention to correct their bad attitudes. Furthermore, my friends did not follow my advise and quited our relationship. So, my advise had negative influence on enhencing friendship.
Additionally, my comment could be a subjective thought. This is due to the fact that every person has their unique philosophy and view. Therefore, determining their attitude on my own view could be a rash judgement. In my friends' view, my comment is absurd because they believe their thought is reasonable. For instance, one of my friends, Jason came from USA. In a class, he try to debate with professors whenever the professor had a different view. So, I used to say him to show polite attitude and respect profressors' view. However, he thougt that showing his opinion actively is desirable attitude as a student. Furthermore, that is anthor way to respect professors. After listeing his view, my advise could be rash one.
To sum up, advising friends should escape as much as possible because the rash tip usd to spoil friends' heart and my comment could be wrong. Therefore, I will encourage my friends to recognize their troble by themselve rather than say straightward. With my rash behavior, I don't want to lose my precious friends. |