Letting a friend make mistake is better than saying or doing something not to destroy friendship ? |
In our life, having a lots of friends are beneficial to us in that they help us when we are in trouble as well as sometimes they suggest us some solutions about problems we face. However, if we let our friends make the same mistake in the name of true friend , it would be not helpful for each other because it will make it harder to establish true friendship between friends and make themselves to be more mature. First of all, if we don't tell friend's wrong behavior or attitude directly, their those characteristic will not be changed at all. Since people have a tendency to stick to their behavior or view of life without accepting their wrong point until other people let them realize their mistake, it is necessary that we should inform them of their mistake as a true friend. For example, one of my best friends had a bad habit to snore loudly while he is drowsing in public area or even during lecture. However, I couldn't tell his bad habit to him because he might have been embarrassed at his mistake so that he would have been quite depressed about the fact. Finally, I couldn't help but telling his snoring ,and then he accepted his own mistake, deciding to visit doctor to cure his bad habit, After that, he has never snored loudly while he was sleeping. According to a research by Korea University, more than 80% of the students responded that they are willing to point out their friend's mistake if they are true friend. Of course, some people say that their mistake can be fixed by their parents or others even though we don't let them know. However, it is shown that friends play more important role in correcting friend's bad habit rather than their parents. Second, sharing friend's mistake and correcting their own bad habit is one of the best way to establish true friendship because they can understand each other more deeply through this process ,and also it makes it possible for them to have a belief and trust about their friend. From my experience, the best way to make true friend was always to let my friends know my mistake or weakness as well as to try to fix my friend's mistake. In this way, I have made lots of friends who I think are my best friends. Furthermore, a research conducted by Time magazine shows well that more than 75% of the American adults responded that they are still trying to let their friends know their own mistake and share their problem with each other because it is better to cover their wrongs for the rest of their life. To sum up, making an effort to make my friends notice their mistake is most likely to be the best way to prevent them from repeating it again as well as to build meaningful relationship between friends. |