Let's say you have a problem to discuss, and there is your friend or adult to talk about it. In this situation, a large number of people might choose to discuss the problem with friends instead of elders. However, in my opinion, it is better to get advice from older people for the following reasons: they can suggest wiser advice and be logical at the same time.
First of all, adults can provide lots of knowledge from their own experiences they had. It is obvious that they are more experienced and have accumulated various situations, including the successful and unsuccessful stories, that made them overcome. Such experience enables them to cover a wide range of problematic situations and makes them choose the best solutions they have. Take my friend Sandy's example. In 2002, she had trouble deciding which university to enrolㅣ, and she asked advice to people near her. One of her friends told her to choose the school where it has name value, on the other hand, the older adults told her to choose the school where it had the specific major she would enjoy for the rest of her life. At that moment, she tried to figure out and finally decided to take the elders advice. And now not only she is enjoying her career but also heading to a fast track for success. Had she taken the friends advice, she might have to detour her career which could take lots of time.
Secondly, elder people can give advice objectively and not being emotional. Although they might not be so emotionally sympathetic while giving advice, it allows them to think more logical. I had an experience of asking suggestion both from adult and close friend. It was a time when I had trouble with my friend who talked back on me to other school mates without any reasons. When my friend heard about the situation, she told me not to talk to that friend anymore. But then the elder gave me the advice to think about the reasons why she had to be mean like that and try to understand her life story for doing such things. Also, he told me to not hate her but just try to avoid her tactfully. Accepting the elder's advice, I could finish my school year without the big trouble. Looking back, had I taken my friend's advice, that girl could have hated me more and do something crueler things to me.
To sum up, I truly believe that asking advice from people who have more life experience is a better way to get a wise solution than asking peers for the reasons I have mentioned above. All in all, experiences and knowledge the elders have could give you the best route for the solutions.
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