<친구와 우정이 나빠지더라도 실수했을 때 충고를 해야한다?> |
A few months ago, one of my friends who quarreled with his sister because of her mistake was frustrated because of the distant relationship after giving her advice. He told me that if I am in such situation, I must not give someone who makes a mistake any advice. However, I disagree with his opinion, for the following reasons. First of all, he(or she) can bring about mistake he always did unless those around him tells him the advice for him to do better than before. For example, I have friend who is very close to me and always makes mistakes. One day, he jokingly swore at me but it make me mad. Even though I knew if I gave him some advice it will make him disappointed in me, I strongly told him not to do it again. From that time on, he has not shown the behavior again. Therefore, I agree that giving advice to someone who makes a mistake enables him to not make the mistake any more. Second reason for my opinion is that I can get a closer relationship with a friend who makes a mistake, not destroy the friendship. This is what happened when I was in university. One of my friends always makes a mistake but I did not showed him discontent because I was concerned that it makes our friendship uncomfortable. However, a few days later, I courageously told him about his mistake, which, in turn, lead to a closer relationship with him because he appreciated my help. In this example, I am convinced that if one gives advice to another who makes a mistake, one can get a closer relationship with each other because it means the friend truly cares about him. Therefore, doing something which could have destroyed the friendship is even better than overlooking a friend who make a mistake. What I mean is that this is because of repetitive problems related to previous mistakes and the closer relationship after advice. |