Some people think that parents should set strict rules
for children if they hope to see their children succeed in life. However, I
believe that they should not set strict rules if they want their children to
succeed in life. This is because setting strict rules for children
prevents children from becoming well grown people by hurting their
feelings, and taking out opportunities to learn decision making skills.
To begin with, setting strict rules can easily hurt
children’s emotions, leading many drawbacks. When children get hurt
emotionally, they want to express their feelings. Children tend to express
their feelings by doing bad things. As a result, strict rules will drag their
life into worse situations. According to the a
study held by Harvard University, 82 percent of respondents out of
200 children who took rehabilitation courses said rigorous rules made them to
decide to do something bad. For instance, a parent set a rule saying that you
should not hang out with children who don’t study hard. They scolded him
when he hung out with friends whose grades are not good. The child got
hurt, and then decided to drink alcohol. Strict rules did not help him succeed,
rather triggered him to do bad things. In this regard, I
believe setting strict rules will not help children succeed in their life.
Furthermore, it is very important for children to
have decision making abilities. They need to make decisions by themselves when
they deal with many problems when parents are not around them. If they get used
to following rules restricting their behaviors, they will not have enough
skills to make use of. Consequently, children who get used to
strict rules will not know what they have to do in the future. For instance, I
have a friend whose parents are super extremely
strict. They had a lot of rules for the kid. For example, he needed to go back
home right after a school finished to study harder. He seemed
like he studied well and got good grades. However, he did not know what we had
to do when his parents were not by him. As a result, he called me every time
when he had a problem when his parents were not there. This characteristic
still lasts and disrupts him to succeed in his life.
In this regard, I believe that setting strict rules will prevent children to
succeed in their life by taking out chances to learn how to make decisions by
themselves.
To sum up, I believe that setting strict rules by
parents does not help children succeed in their life for the following reasons;
Strict rules make children hurt, resulting children to do many bad things that
they didn’t do originally, and the rules set by parents will take out chances
for children to learn how to make decisions by themselves, which is very
important to succeed in their life. Consequently, the importance of my opinion
cannot be underestimated for the reasons I mentioned above.