▶ Your Answer : Some people
believe that allowing a friend making a mistake is better idea than trying to
prevent him or her from it. This is because they think another person's advice
may not always work out sometimes. However, I firmly believe that even though
it would be risky that destroy a relationship, people should take action for
their friends for following reasons: First, one can't make wise decision alone
and second, it will worsen a friendship if something gets wrong with a friend.
To begin
with, every human being is not perfect creature. Which means we always can't
make smart decision by ourselves in all situations. That is why a good friend
exists. People should help their friends to do right thing when others seem to
walk along the wrong path. For example, I have an old friend named Jihee. Since
Jihee has always felt that she needs to study more, she decided to study abroad
in United States after she graduated college. After getting in graduate school in
California, everything seemed going well with her. However, one day I realized
via her friend that she got addicted to alcohol because she could not get used
to new life in strange country and had heavy pressure under the a lot of tests
she had to pass. As one of closest friend, I was worrying about her situation.
So I flew to her place and persuaded her to take off the school for a year and
come back to hometown. At first, she refused to take my advice, but she soon
went back to Korea with me and got some therapies for her alcohol addiction. If
I had not taken any action for her situation, she would be in serious trouble
by now. Therefore, it is important to guide friends into right direction rather
than sitting back and watch them making wrong decisions.
On top of
that, just letting a friend decide any choice can worsen relationship sometimes.
If a friend's decision get wrong and something bad happens to her, she may blame
on me having not told any advice to her. Thus it would break our friendship.
For example, when I was in high school, I used to have a friend Nancy. At that
time Nancy was considering breaking up with her boyfriend because he would not
respond her messages and calls for two weeks. Even though I saw that guy walking
with a strange girl at the shopping mall, I didn't give her any advice because
it could hurt her feelings. Also I thought all matters were up to Nancy.
However, after she realized the boy was cheating on her, Nancy suddenly blamed
on me that I haven't told anything I knew to her. After for a while, Nancy apologized
to me about being dramatic, but we could not get along well as we used to. This
example implies that sometimes letting a friend making own decisions is not
good idea and may break a relationship.
To sum up, I
agree with the idea that taking action that risks destroying a friendship Is better
than letting a friend make a mistake. Since people usually can't make smart
decision alone, friends need to guide that right direction. Also, sometimes
sitting back and allowing a friend decide whatever they want will worsen a
friendship if something gets wrong with her. |