There is an ongoing debate over whether how we should act when we see our friends making mistakes. Some people might say telling our friends about their fault is better because that's what so called friends do for their people, giving advice not to go to the wrong way. However, on the contrary to this notion, I strongly believe that doing nothing to friends is better. The rationale behind this is that they can learn a lot from their mistakes, and through failure they would set their goals more specifically.
First of all, hardship would give people valuable lessons which cannot be obtained even in books. This is largely because they can see their drawbacks directly through heartbreaking experience and also throughout these accidents they are able to develop their strong points. For example, there are several fake tests of university entrance exam before real one to estimate about students' ability in that year. According to the KEC which deals with all educational events in Korea, students who get low scores in their fake test are more likely to have higher score in real test. One of the staff in this center said that this is because previous test score reveals students' weak point, so they can fill their flaws, which lead them to get higher grade. In this sense, it seems clear that facing the real harsh fact is more efficient than sneaking out.
On top of that, experiencing failure drives people to build a goal in detail. The fundamental reason behind this is that by encountering severe outcomes, people can distinguish what they can accomplish and what they cannot make, so they would realize their wishes by stepping each stage in process. From my experience, I've always dreamed to go abroad for studying, so I started studying TOEFL to apply for an exchange student. Since I didn't have any specific goal, everything was a lot ambiguous. However, after taking my first TOEFL test, I disappointed for myself because my score could not even reach the bottom line for exchange students. However, after getting bitter score, I set my wishing score, 90, and I planned day based schedule with help of teachers. In the next test, I received more than 90 score, and moreover I also could win scholarship from my university. Had it not been for the failure of first TOEFL test, I couldn't have accomplished such a success.
In conclusion, it is better not to advise to friends than to talk about their expected failure. The reason is that telling them would deprive them of the opportunity to learn inestimable lessons. All in all, I believe that these are the most important factors for caring friends.
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