In this gigantic world in which we live, it seems that the world gets closer, but people get narrower. It is observed by my research in several university campuses that students are not active in club activity, rather they form a group of handful people. In this phenomenon I find many difficulties saying that youngsters have less competancy in social networking. I, therefore, highly suggest the paleto theory applied in relationship, meeting many people and making close friends.
First, invest 80% of time and money in important people around you. There are members of family and close friends whom a person really loves. Spending most of time and economic resource on them, one can build robust and reliable foundation in his relationship. From my standing point, it was rather hard to keep good contact with my family and close friends, as I like going out and findting new people. Thus I made my family and friends sad time to time and also making myself unstable. Yet, realizing they are truly my people who will go with me till the end, I try to turn my attention in their affairs and to have meetings more often. These efforts, in the end, have come to the point I feel more rooted and strongly related.
Second, the rest 20% of your time and money is to be on people around you. Never one be always related with people whom he likes. There should be unwilling meetings with unfavorable characters. If one ignores those meetings and narrow his social range, he hardly grows up and possibly loses possiblities. On the otherhand, facing and understaning different personalities, a person can nurture his view and extend his social network. The network, then, will help him in many parts of his carreer, gaining advice in different fields. In my case, I have met people more than 40 counctries. Surely, the contact with them is shallow relatively, but helpful getting information which is limited to me like Finnish education system which only locals know . Also, I could travel many countries visiting those people. As this experience shows, a lot of possiblities have been made beyound my imagination.
The world jungle is wide enough to find for seekers. However, young people tend to becomes isolated with limited social network, I believe the narrow relationship with only favorable people can arouse many problems later. I, therefore, suggest the paleto principle in relationship, that is, spending 80% of yours on close people, 20% on people around. In doing so, one can have strong and creditable relationship while still being possible to meet new people and allowing to extend social view. |