In this rapidly changing world, generations gap has become controversial issue. Some parents argue that they have exerted the greatest influence on their children.
However, after closer inspection, it would be evident that children has learned much from outside home, compared to the past. This is resulted from increase in two-paycheck parents and childern want to belong to social fold.
First of all, There is increasing number of parents who working both in one family. Mothers are no longer staying home, waiting for their children's return from school. Consequently, today's children spend their free time doing other activities, watching movies, enjoying new games, and establishing cyber-relationship through the Internet.
The best illustration of this point is certain relation between young adult's crime rate and video-games. Many studies have concluded that these young adults commited crime as they had been greatly affected violent scene of games. Even though they had been taught about moral from their parents, This negative effect of games is so enourmous to them, parents could not fight off.
On top of them, most young adult want to belong to social group. As enter their Adolescence, Socializing has became much important for them. They seek to enter to right group and win more recognition from their peer, leaving their parents and home.
From my personal experience, I was a very obedient girl who was always follow my parents' opinion rather than having my own, and getting help with my problem from them. However as I get older, I became gradually refrain from relying on my parents, Instead on my friends.
When I have a problem I used to consult my friends and weigh meeting with friends than family affair. Although I love parents, I feel more comfortable when I am with my peer group as a young adults.
This "leaving nest" is a proper process to be independent adult.
To conclude, getting less influence from parents is inevitable fact of life. As life is changing, both parents are spending less time with their children, and children also yearn to join in social folds.
Accordingly, Parents should realize that there are many factor influent on their children and guide children to go right direction with them.
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