Letting a friend make a mistake is better than saying or doing something that might destroy the friendship. |
Yesterday, I watched Friends, a popular american comedy drama. In the episode that I watched, Rachel pointed out that Joe did not wear suitable outfit for the wedding they attended together. In Friends, Joe really appreciated Racheal since she helped him to fix his mistake. Likewise, I believe that many people agree that to indicate their friends' mistakes is better than to do nothing. However, I strongly think that to let a frined make a mistake is better than taking some actions that might destroy the friendship due to two reasons. First, fixing the mistake by oneself is more valuable. Second, it's hard to define what is mistakes. Firstly, letting friends fix mistakes is more efficent and long-lasting.Of course, friends will fix their mistakes more easily and faster. However, as they fixed their behavior without realizing the underlying problem by themselves, they will continuously wonder what's really the matter. Thus, it's evident that If I point out my friends' mistakes, they will made the same mistake again. For instance, several months ago, I told my friend Jessica in person that she often says bad words. At the very moment, Jessica seemed to try to be careful when she speaks. However, soon, she started to say bad words again. However, several days later, she suddenly became a totally new person. Her words were lovely. She explained me that one day she suddenly felt that saying bad words is too ugly. Thus, she changed her words all by herself. And up to now, Jessy is my friend who speaks lovely words. Thus, I believe that just letting friends to make mistake is better than doing somethings since the former one offers a chance for friends to fix the mistake by themseleves. Second, I insist that letting friends make mistakes is better since it's hard to define what the mistake is. Everyone has diffrent backgrounds and experiences. Thus, some mistakes are acceptable behavior to some people while others can not tolerate them. Thus, it's very dangerous to blame friends who make mistakes on your own criteria. For instance, my friend Sue is from the U.S. And I'm from Korea. Last year, I invited Sue to Korea. When we had meals in Korean traditional restaurant, I was very angry when she started coughing on the table. And I told Sue not to cough. That's because coughing on the table is often considered rudenss in Korea. However, soon, she told me that she really did not know such a meaning of coughing since it do not exist in the U.S. After then I learn that I should avoid indicating my friends' mistakes since what I think mistake can be widely accepted behavior on my friends' standard. In conclusion, I firmly believe that letting friends making mistakes is better than taking some actions. Of course, people may argue that friend should help each other to fix wrong behaviors or mistakes. However, as I mentiond above, indicating friens mistake has only temporary effect on fixing the mistake. Futhermore, It's very dangerous to judge what is mistake or tolerate behavior on friends critiera. |