▶ Your Answer :
Parents
usually are concerned with their children’s behavior because they are afraid of
their kids’ misbehaviors. Thus they sometimes try to monitor them and coach
their children how to behave in certain circumstances. However, I think it is a
bad idea to observe children’s behavior when they are playing with their
friends. The reasons illustrating this are stated in the following paragraphs.
To
begin with, monitoring their kids closely would harm their children to get
along with their friends freely. If parents continue to observe their behavior
and sold them if they did wrong, kids have to read their parents’ face
frequently, thus disturbing them to play with their friends. In addition, the
children whose parents tend to interfere frequently would be teased as mama’s
boy by their friends. For instance, when I was a kid, one of my friend’s mother
was so passionate that she tried to monitor every behavior and follow every
place that her son went. Her behavior disrupted us to play, so we started to
feel agitated and keep mocking him as a mama’s boy. It is bad to make fun at
someone else, but since kids are too young to acknowledge it, observing one’s child
too closely will only hurt the child.
Next, monitoring children would increase dependency
towards their parents, thus rather adding misbehavior problems. Children, whose
parents always follows, have hard time to do things by themselves when their
parents are not present. When parents are monitoring their children to mend
their misbehavior, they are not just teaching them; they even try to help them
when they are in trouble. Due to this fact, kids keep expecting that someone
will appear to assist them, therefore becoming passive and lethargic to perform
difficult tasks.
Finally, sometimes behaviors that adults
believe to be bad were actually not misbehaviors; it could be one’s personal
characteristic. Thus, trying to observe their behaviors and mend them would
harm their kids to develop mature personality and even cause failures in development
of self-conscious. Parents usually want their children to be quite, polite and
hard-working, so they dislike when their children talk too much, play with
their friends vigorously or overact. However, in many cases, it is the child’s
own personality to be the extrovert. I once learned in a psychology class that keep
regulating the children’s behavior would make kids to deny their personality
and discourage them to develop their ego, leading them to be adults with lack
of self-confidence.
To
conclude, although parents are worried about their kids’ development and
behaviors, it would be much better for them to let their kids to play with
their friends freely. Since monitoring children will disturb them to get along
with their friends and cause them to become passive. Furthermore, observing and
mending their children’s behavior will deteriorate their self-development.
Therefore, I disagree with the following statement that monitoring children
when they are getting along with friends is beneficial for children’s behavior. |